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Lets be playful about our 2016 desires + meet me in Sydney?

Happy New Year.

Alongside getting back to biz this week I’ve been doing lots of clearing.  Its a GOOD feeling, to de-clutter.  I love the feel of energy shifting in my space.

My intention is to be traveling more throughout 2016 and I wanted to leave for Sydney this Sunday (OMG so soon!) knowing that I’d let go of a lot of stuff I don’t need anymore.

One of the most interesting things about going through stuff is finding notes and papers from when I first started my business four and a half years ago.  It is interesting to observe my processes back then.

I see from pages of old notebooks how much of the time I was in my head, trying to figure things out logically.  Back then I felt like I should be doing better than I was, and I got stuck working out how I was going to 'make it happen' and become more successful.

I remember feeling guilty for not achieving more. Trying. ‘Should-ing’. ‘How-ing’. It felt more like I was pushing my business rather than inviting it in.

I had really high expectations for myself and my work that sabotaged me at those young and vulnerable stages.  I was so in my head about what to do next, a lot of the time.

It is obviously important and exciting to get clear on our desires, map out our plans and look at our next steps (and this is a great time of year for it), but unless this is coming from an inspired, positive place, it doesn’t always serve us in the way we hoped, the way we'd been promised it would.

I found that when my to-do list was so extensive and rigid, I was overwhelmed and couldn’t move forward very productively at all. And then when I felt stuck, I was beating up on myself for not being further ahead, procrastination-planning and generally going around in circles.  Thinking back to that feels icky.

It was interesting to find all these notes, because I operate from SUCH a different place now.

Becky Rui

I know now that feeling good is what I was always striving for.  I had thought that by being more successful in my business I would be happier.  But no matter how much business success I could or couldn’t achieve, joy was a vibration already within me, within us all, available and ready to be tuned into.  I was ‘wasting’ my time, energy and potential worrying and getting freaked out about the details of everything, because all along I could have been feeling more relaxed and playful about it all.

I know it doesn’t make sense to most of the world, to relax about our goals, some people think it sounds lazy or deluded (maybe people have accused you of this too, ha!?), but in my experience it’s a massively more powerful, creative and active place to be. And feels a whole lot lighter!

This is also a Virgo talking here peeps, this is an allowing practice I remind myself of daily.

When you’re truly allowing yourself to feel good, inspiration occurs that just wouldn’t have been born out of any pressured, fearful, pushing place you were in before.  This INSPIRED action will likely be so much more fun and effective than anything you’d have forced to happen before, and will open up more and more opportunities that seem quite magical.

If joy is our real desire, then I believe we can get into a more playful place about everything else, especially ‘how’ we’ll get to wherever we want to be/do/have/achieve.  The nudge to take the best action will be there in the best timing when we are in the best place for it.  We just have to tune in to ourselves and how we're really feeling about things as we make our decisions.

There are lots of things you can do to get into that good place to start off with, some of those for me are journaling - particularly about what I appreciate and what I am grateful for (write for as long as you can + feel it!), meditate on a really good feeling for 20 minutes, practice yoga - again even if only for a few minutes or just to stretch. Dance! Get outside and admire nature, whether you stand outside your door and watch the clouds for 30 seconds or go for a long, nourishing walk.  Everything is a sign, so follow what feels really good to you.

I wanted to share this message with you today, just in case all the GOAL SETTING that most of us do in Jan is getting you caught up anywhere, bringing up any unwanted feelings, and as a little loving reminder (to you, and myself!) to remember that joy is already within… To know your own desires, FEEL good about them and let go of the HOW.  Big love to you!


As I mentioned, I’m going to be heading to Australia on Sunday!!! - I am excited most about running my biz as I travel, exploring new places, having fun doing photo-shoots, enjoying really good almond chai lattes, making friends, floating in the sea, creatively writing and drawing, feeling warm in the sunshine, checking out cute shops and businesses, ahhh… Wanna come too!?

I have availability for photo-shoots while I’m down under, so if you fancy next shoot (where it’s Summer right now!) or have clients, friends or family interested in working together, do get in touch by at becky@beckyrui.com.  I have availability when I'm back in the UK again from 11th March 2016.

FIVE spaces are left for Sydney photo shoots.  Is one of them yours?

With love, smiles, and a happy dance for your most joyful year so far!

Becky

P.S. You can keep up to date with my adventures over on Instagram!

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Promised yourself you'd update your photos in 2015 but it just didn't happen?

Email me and let's find a time to connect. Over Skype we'll explore your business and dreams for 2016 so far and look at how we can most powerfully create together - helping you to shine in your marketing, engage with you peeps in the most joyful and exciting way ever, and take your business to the next level!

+ if you'd like to know more about the process of a personal branding shoot in the meantime, head over to this page, or sign up on my homepage for a free audio guide with more info and tips to help you prepare for your next shoot!

Powerful questions for 2015 reflection + my fave books!

Trusting you had a beautiful time over Christmas and new years, and enjoyed taking some moments for yourself!

The end of the year and start of the new one always feels like a great time for reflection and inspiration as many of us take a break from business as usual.

I really enjoyed making some space to stop and take account of it all, celebrate my successes and consider the learnings I've made.  Some of the questions that occurred to me looking back on 2015 were...

  • What did I achieve this year (in my business and personally)?
  • When was I most in alignment this year? Where was I? What was I doing? Who was I with?
  • What did I do to expand my comfort zone in 2015? How did I challenge myself?
  • Who helped me out this year (friends, clients, family, authors, speakers, coaches, strangers)? How did I acknowledge them (or how will I acknowledge them now)?
  • What loving acts of kindness did I do for someone else this year?
  • What loving acts of kindness did I do for myself this year?
  • What would I like to have happen in 2016? This list could be as big or as small as to relocate, to do a 30 day yoga challenge, start a new biz, take a special trip, to climb a mountain, try out that recipe you’ve been wanting to make for ages, plan a party, or finally update your branding photos ;)
  • What would I need to do differently in 2016 in order to make space for my desires to manifest?
  • What am I prepared to do differently in 2016 in order to allow, and make space for my desires to actually manifest?
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I’ve got to say, one of the biggest things for me in 2015 was that I started READING!  It sounds kind of alarming to me now, to imagine that I wasn’t really reading books before this year, but it’s true!  I just never got to focus and get through more than a few chapters.

This year I read some amazing books, and applying what I learned from them truly TRANSFORMED my life and my whole year personally, business-wise and in my relationships.  A LOT has shifted for me since this time last year - the way I’m living life, the people I am attracting into my experience, the way I’m working with my clients, everything is higher-vibe, more conscious and more exciting, and I know a lot of it has to do with these amazing books.

I’d love to share with you a few of the classic and new reads I enjoyed this year + a few takeaways (in the order I read them). I'm sure you'll know most of them!

I'd love to know your thoughts too... Have you read these?  What did you take from them?  How did they help you to see the world differently?  What changes did you make after reading them?  I love that the messages in these works resonate with us all in different ways.

1. The Big Leap - Gay Hendricks

It was honestly amazing how much this book helped me to change my life and up-level my business. Something just unlocked for me after reading this. It's funny that I'd had it for years before picking it up, I guess the timing was just right.

Through concepts such as the 'Upper Limit Problem' this book helped me to see past my own blocks and self doubt, and go beyond them, shifting my mindset. I took SO much away from this book.

After reading this I became really aware of the 'stories' I was telling, the excuses I was making for myself and I started to really challenge my beliefs.  My thinking became so much more conscious.  Were my thoughts really serving me?  Were they even true for me?  I realised just how lame and unhelpful some of them were and LET. THEM. GO. Shining a light of awareness into our dark beliefs weakens them, and they can disappear altogether.  Read this book!

2. The Power Of Now - Eckhart Tolle

THIS BOOK. Obviously, amazing. It’s a classic.  It was massive for me and a really good next step from The Big Leap, taking consciousness to the next level and going even deeper.  I picked it up by chance at a swishing party when I noticed it on my way out.  I wonder how different things might be now if I hadn't seen it there that day!?

This was an extremely transformational read. Again I read it cover to cover and now carry it with me very often, dipping back into random chapters or revisiting specific parts.  I also read A New Earth after this one, and the message is similar - they are equally powerful in my opinion. These books help me to connect with Source, my higher self, and live from that place - being present, where life is literally buzzing all around, everything is beautifully connected and all is well.

3. The Four-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

This book really changed the way I looked at our concept of wealth, goals, achievement, our life-timeline and what’s really possible.

It includes some great questions and exercises that made a huge impact on my life, and includes lots of helpful and interesting learnings that he's made along the way in life and biz.  This book totally opened my mind to different ways of doing business, leveraging time and skills in a more productive way.  Whether you like him or not, Tim Ferriss is one of the most fascinating people I have ever read from or listened to.

This book inspired me massively and gave me so many practical tools to get on with straight away, and like all teachings, I applied what felt relevant and left what didn't feel right to me.

He also has an AWESOME podcast where he interviews all sorts of interesting people - I recommend checking it out, it's called The Tim Ferriss Show. It's always one I download and listen to!!

4. Big Magic - Elizabeth Gilbert

My coach recommended this book with so much passion that I was compelled to get it straight away! I loved Liz Gilberts TED talks and was excited to read her new book which unlike previous works was a self-help type book rather than a novel.

I came away from this book with a lot more respect for all art, including my own, not only for the work itself but for the enjoyment of creating it. To value our creativity, to acknowledge the artist within us and enjoy making stuff.  I finished reading it wile I was away on the Abraham-Hicks cruise, and I felt that Liz’s concept of creativity and inspiration being like energies out there, looking for a human partner tied in really well with what I had been learning on the event. A real breath of fresh air, its also a super funny read - I LOLLED many, many times.

What were your favourite books read in 2015? I would love to know!

Creating this list also reminded me that I helped to write a book this year!  I was honored to contribute to Sue Williams Believe! You Can! series of books around self belief. I wrote a chapter on overcoming limitations where I shared my story.  You can buy the book on Amazon here (kindle version here) or check out the website here. The pic on the left here was taken at the book launch... What an exciting time it was!

Sending you good vibes for 2016. It's going to be an awesome one!

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Promised yourself you'd update your photos in 2015 but it just didn't happen?

Email me and let's find a time to connect. Over Skype we'll explore your business and dreams for 2016 so far and look at how we can most powerfully create together - helping you to shine in your marketing, engage with you peeps in the most joyful and exciting way ever, and take your business to the next level!

Now taking bookings for Sydney + London.

Message me at becky@beckyrui.com. I can't wait to hear from you!

If you'd like to learn more about the process of a personal branding shoot you can head over to this page, or sign up on my homepage for a free audio guide to learn more and help you prepare for your next shoot!

Personal branding + 4 steps to giving yourself permission to show up in your truth!

I had some powerful conversations last week with entrepreneur friends of mine I caught up with (stylist Natalia and PR expert Fiona) around personal branding that have left me totally buzzing. The theme of AUTHENTICITY in business and comparison-free living has been so strong…

What I feel called to share with you today is that being YOURSELF in your business is really key. But you already know that.

You’ve heard it a million times. You probably share this with your own clients too. It’s something that we all know and wholeheartedly believe, but are you actually SHOWING UP in your truth in your business and marketing?

With the noise and stimulation of all the other entrepreneurs out there, their impactful branding, seamless marketing strategies, compelling copy, and shiny glam photos, we can start sometimes feel unsure about our own preferences, perhaps wanting to emulate someone else and their brand because THAT seems to be where it's at. But emulating someone else is never true for you and doesn't feed your soul… It's not exciting, and it's never SUSTAINABLE.

But it feel can feel really scary to show up totally as yourself in your business... The fear usually goes something like - what if I show up as myself and I look stupid? Or what if I show up as myself and nobody wants to work with me anymore?

I get it... I've been there too!! You're passionate about what you do, this is like your baby. So of course those fears will come up because you are wanting to protect it, keep it safe, treasure it. And you want everyone else to, too.

But trying to be who you think everyone wants you to be, or like someone else actually holds you back from evolving your business in a way that best serves you and your clients.

You know that your work serves people at a high level and makes the world a happier place. And you really want to do your business justice by putting it out there in a way that inspires your prospects to be all like 'SIGN ME UP RIGHT NOW' so that you can make all the magic with them.  You just want to get it right.

And getting it right is getting it REAL.

Don't you feel, when you see another business owner doing it THEIR way, not following the crowd, not fitting in, it’s inspiring!? Whether you personally resonate with what they’re doing, you’ve got to admit it’s pretty cool. Because it’s fearless, and REAL. This is what the world needs.

Since I gave myself permission to be myself in my life and business, to stop trying to control and plan everything so much, to show up as ME, everything feels lighter, more fun, more at peace, more exciting, more connected, more in alignment, and I am working with my clients in an even more divine, grounded, inspired and intuitive way than ever before. Doing things I’d always wanted to do but felt a bit scared to or awkward about - for example; starting my shoots with a conscious breathing exercises or grounding meditations when I felt called to. Or sending out to my mailing list about what I’m really passionate about and what I’m really into (like this!)… Following what I feel intuitively guided to do, and knowing that it is what is required at that moment. Trusting that it will resonate with some people and not others. It's all okay.

The ego based fear can come up again and again when it comes to what we really care about.  So here are a few things I do, to remind myself that it's okay to be me, and to feel more and more at peace with putting my true self into my branding and marketing, which you can remind yourself of too.

1.  Congratulate yourself on how far you have already come.

The fact you're even in business doing something you love (or doing some of the things you love) is INSPIRING and awesome! Go you!!

2.  Know that it's okay to ease into the vulnerability.
You don’t have to put your whole self out there in one big go, just be authentic in what you DO choose to share. You’ll know if you do yoga or exercise that you can’t necessarily just go from no-practice to a totally balanced headstand in one session, or from no-running to a 40k marathon in one day. It’s okay to ease into it, stretch it out, find what feels good as you move forward.

3.  Trust your inner guidance.

For example, does the stuff you’re sharing in your marketing feel light and exciting, or does it feel heavy and fearful? Bringing awareness to how things FEEL is the best way to check in with whether you’re being authentic, TRULY authentic with who you are. So if it feels heavy or complicated or mixed up, ask yourself when that happened… What has changed since your business felt fun and exciting? What have you stopped doing? What have you started doing?  Perhaps you can re-work some of the content by taking out all the words or images that feel heavy, otherwise just move away from your desk, go out in nature, meditate, find a positive-feeling place.  Just be still for a while and let fresh new inspiration come to you.

4. Give yourself permission to trust yourself.

And if you’re struggling to give yourself permission. Here it is.

I GIVE YOU PERMISSION to be yourself.

Because I believe that what you have to share is valuable.
Because I know that like every other soul on this planet, you came here with a unique gift that will be of massive benefit when you share it with others.
Because I know that once you start showing up as YOU, you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it earlier, because it actually feels SO MUCH LIGHTER and way more fun than trying to be someone you're not.
Because now everything finally flows for you.
Because now you’re living life on your own terms and working in a way you had only ever fantasized about.


As a personal branding photographer it is a pretty big part of my job to make sure that what I create with my clients happens from a place of integrity, truth and open-ness. This is what we can delve into together.

If you’re struggling to get clear on what feels true for you and how you’re showing up in your business, send me a message at becky@beckyrui.com and we'll book in your discovery call.

I would be delighted to explore with you to get clarity on your personal brand and how I can serve you with new photography that radiates your spirit and engages with your ideal clients.

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A free guide on the impact of photography in branding + prep for your shoot!

I’ve had the joy of working with many inspiring entrepreneurs in the UK (and around the world!), and over this time I’ve come to learn so much about the kinds of imagery that really work in branding, how it’s becoming a more and more crucial element in growing our businesses, and how to navigate ALL THE FEELS that come up around being visible in your business!

I wanted to share this guide with you so that you get in on all the goodness! Sign up to my list on the homepage or scroll down to the bottom of the site to get to the sign up form.

In this value packed audio, I'm delighted to be sharing with you…

  • Why photography is such an important part of your business today + how your photographs impact your brand
  • What you need to consider as you plan your session + how to prepare for your photo-shoot and
  • How to use photography in your business to take it to the next level!

I’ve given talks similar to this in the past and I know the content has been really helpful and thought provoking - plus there's a lot of new stuff in here I've not shared before!

This is going to be great listening for you if you're wanting to get clearer on what personal branding photography is all about, connect with the power you have to evolve your brand in a way that EXCITES you, and if you want to feel more inspired about presenting yourself authentically!

And if you have friends, clients, colleagues or connects that you feel would benefit from this guide, I would love for you to invite them to sign up!

Let me know what you think of the guide; what you’d like to know more or less about, whether it shifted anything for you, inspired new ideas or action to take. I would be so interested to hear your feedback!

If you’re eager to explore how we can work together to create scrumptious branding photography for your website and social media, send me a message at becky@beckyrui.com and let’s have a conversation!

Read this if you've got a fear of being visible in your business!

One of the greatest hurdles I see my new clients face is...

...actually not the fear of being photographed.  It’s not deciding what to wear for their photos, or where they want to have their shoot.  It’s not even making the investment in themselves.
 
The biggest hurdle I see my new clients face, is the fear of being visible.  Being seen for who they really are in their business.

They’re doing amazing work in the world, serving their people at a high level and are deeply passionate about their calling and their business.  These are inspiring leaders...

Yet so often when it comes to putting their face out there and telling their story through photography, the fear of being judged is often the biggest challenge to overcome.
 
This block is something we can totally release, as we embrace our truly personal brand and share our authentic selves in a way that opens us up to deeper connection with ourselves and our audience.

Below I'm sharing some things to remember and steps to take to help move past the fear of being visible and get comfortable sharing your real self!

1. Firstly, remember WHY you’re in business.
 
When you reached the turning point in your life and took that brave step to start your own business, you knew it was time to step up.  You knew you had a gift to share with the world. You knew you were here to be your best self, to inspire others and naturally make the world a better place. You knew that the work you're here to do was bigger than you, and that is was time to get out of your own way and share it!
 
2. People want to know WHO they’re investing in.
 
Photographs evoke an emotional response in us when we see them. You get a sense of who someone is when you see a photograph of them... Their personality and energy, and perhaps this is the piece that can scare us the most. It is brave to be visible, yet it is so important for making a genuine connection with our audience and getting them interested and involved in what you've got to offer.
 
3. Your clients need to be able to FIND YOU to work with you.
 
How are people going to find you if you’re not showing up? Literally.  How did you find your own coach or the business resources you use?  Didn't the way they came across in their branding shots have a big part to play in your first impressions and the feeling you got about them?  Their content and photos and branding had to be out there for you to know about them and invest in them. People want what you’ve got, so let them in. Let them see you!
 
4. Being seen for who you are is REFRESHING for everyone.

 
Don’t you love seeing entrepreneurs get real? Being in their truth? Isn’t that SO much more appealing than seeing people trying to 'fit in', or being someone they're not?
 
Isn’t it a relief to know that you can be 100% yourself, AND attract clients and connections that are a perfect match for you?

When I’m investing in a service online, I want to connect with the person I’m working with. I want to see who they are, and authentic photographs help us to do that.

When you're in alignment with yourself and sharing your truth, it means that the people that aren't a great match with you will fall away, and the ones that resonate with you, the clients you REALLY want to be working with will be drawn to connect with you.
 
5. Ultimately, people are more concerned about what they’re doing and how they are showing up than what you’re doing.

Play with this. Don't take it so seriously. Your photographs are not going to define you for the rest of your life. Chances are you're going to learn a lot from each shoot you do, each set of images you receive, each marketing campaign you do, taking the next step and the next step and finding what feels right as you and your business evolve.

When you do YOU really well, you unconsciously give others permission to be themselves too. It's seriously inspiring.

After you've shared your real self in your photos a few times, it becomes so much more comfortable and the obvious way to go!

We love to see other people are real, so give yourself permission to do the same.


Is updating your branding shots something you promised yourself you'd do this year - but still haven't gotten around to?

Send me an email at becky@beckyrui.com and let's talk. There's still time! I only have a couple of spots left for December.

I'm going to be in SYDNEY/MELBOURNE for most of Jan-Feb (yay!), and will be back to the UK for shoots in March, so do get in touch asap to secure your date!

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